1. Preface 4. Grave while Alive
2. Four Novels 5. Two Cases of Goodbye
3. Home Bakery 6. Decluttering or Being Decluttered
7. Never Forget Mr. Y's Gift
4. Grave while Alive

There is a wonderful cemetery park around the reclaimed land along the east seashore of Urayasu City, Chiba Prefecture, and it seems to be under expansion still now.
There are several hotels and two hot-spring facilities nearby, and you can get to Urayasu-City General Public Park in ten-minute walk to enjoy a relaxing stroll.

Tokyo Bay is looked out over widely before this large cemetery park and a pine grove like a fence behind it. This quiet area is blessed with the surrounding environment, where you should be relieved without noticing.

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Sorry to wander from the subject, but my family grave is in my hometown Miwasaki of Shingu City, Wakayama Prefecture.
The cemetery area like a square is located near Hachiman Shrine, in the corner of which are two stone monuments of my ancestors as follows. They were built by my parents.

I left Miwasaki after the graduation from Shingu Senior High School, and through university days and office-working life, stayed around such big cities as Nagoya and Tokyo far away from the local farming and fishing town. It has been even nearly 40 years since my family moved to the present condominium on the 11th floor in Urayasu City in the suburbs of Tokyo.

Sorry to say, I have left the grave-keeping of Koshiba family to my younger brother's couple all through, and my visit there has shamefully been once a couple of years since my mother Kumano's death 17 years ago.
Nevertheless, I did not waver in my idea to join in my parents' grave eventually. I really admire my parents and ancestors just the same with my brother, and worship the family Buddhist alter with my hands pressed together in the living room of my home. (Our couple's Buddhist alter is my Koshiba parents and my wife's Kobayashi parents.)

What about my wife Emiko married into Koshiba family half a century ago? Her parents are sleeping in the Hachioji Cemetery in the suburbs of Tokyo, but she seems to be with my family in the next world too, though we have not particularly talked about such things yet.

Even so, the grave of Koshiba family in Miwasaki is a little too far for my wife of 77 years old and myself of one year older, let alone our three children.
In fact, I transferred the address on the family register from my hometown Miwasaki to Urayasu City. The reason was that the previous situation had been very troublesome to my 3 children. Every time they needed the family register they had to depend on a telegraphic communication, and it took too much extra time.

They visited my hometown several times all right, but did not live there at all.
Greenwich City of Connecticut State in the suburbs of New York City may be more familiar to them because our whole family lived there for 3 years due to my work in Daido Steel a little more than 30 years ago.
The transfer of the family-registered address was finally done by admitting their strong request.

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Well now, about Urayasu Cemetery Park and our couple.
Urayasu City, where our couple live and our children nearby, has extensively publicized its municipal cemetery park along the seashore every year, appealing to the citizens to get their graves. We noticed about it somehow, and when visited the wide and lively cemetery park extending the walk for 10 minutes from the General Public Park, both of us got a good impression there. However, we had no interest in it for our own until the move of my family-registered address.
At the time when I cautiously told my brother's couple that I would like to get our couple's own grave in Urayasu City, they gave their ready consent to my idea contrary to all expectations.

The graveyard here is classified into the graves in the grass area and the joint graves in the wood. We decided to apply for the grass grave while alive.

We failed last year, but received the winning letter from the city office in June this year.
Finishing the necessary payment procedure right away, we found how lucky we were. Our grave place was very near the entrance in the vast cemetery. The administration office with a rest hall was nearby, too.

Now, what kind of gravestone should we select and what to engrave?
A lady in charge in the office treated us courteously, and she got in touch with T company for us among several ones belonging to the administrative union.
So, the gravestone was completed according to the schedule in September as follows.

Our grave is about one hour on foot from home. The bus service is convenient, too.
We will surely go to the grave for the alive of our own while taking a walk from now on.

In mid November afternoon under the refreshing autumn sky with no wind, Emiko and I visited our grave for cleaning, while confirming the proper way there and the necessary walking time.

Cross the bridge over Sakai River near Juntendo Hospital and head for the seashore along the river.
Turn left on the way and follow the alley until Meikai University.
Head for the seashore again along the main street until the General Public Park.
Finally turn left and walk for several minutes to get to the Cemetery Park.

There may be another shortcut, but it was less than one hour by Emiko's pace. While maybe good on foot one way, we agreed about the distance for a bicycle or a bus service.

Our Koshiba family grave is the 17th line just near the park entrance. The facility of water supply and cleaning is on the side.
This time Emiko cleaned the grave with a broom and a wiping rag, then it became brand-new and beautiful in an instant. Both stone color and shape are all satisfactory. The letters "chukonen.com" engraved at the bottom of the right side symbolize that this is our couple's next place to live in. Thinking so, we had a comfortable pastime for a while.
(I am sorry I cannot show the cleaned-up grave because I forgot to bring the camera here this time.)

And now on the way back we made use of a bus service from the General Public Park. Emiko's pedometer showed just 10 thousand steps.

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